Do you want to get your covert hypnosis skills to the next level in about 3 minutes?
GREAT! Then read this carefully…
What most people don’t understand about covert hypnosis is that it’s dynamic, like any other communication model.
Furthermore, beginners usually learn the techniques and then throw them out randomly, without any calibration, without taking any preparation steps and without any plan.
Now, I do believe that it’s important to go out as soon as you learn these techniques and begin using them because this is the only way to get proficient at covert hypnosis…
However, someone new trying the techniques might very soon find him- or herself in an awkward situation. I’m not talking of being caught — this never happens with “subjects” that are uneducated in the art of covert hypnosis. I’m talking about appearing creepy or strange because they miss a couple of steps or think that if they did a technique it must have worked and they just go on eventually creeping the heck out of their listener(s).
After such a negative experience, many people quit and deprive themselves from learning one of the most powerful, useful and exciting skills there are.
So, here I’ll give you a quick review of what should be there in order for covert hypnosis to really work:
1.) You need attention. There’s very little you can do when you don’t have attention from a person. Sure, there are some great subliminal techniques to prime your subject of interest for certain direction you want their mind to later go, but with only that you’ll get stuck and won’t get anywhere. You need attention from your subject first and you also need to hold it throughout your interaction.
2.) You need to set a correct frame or CONTEXT. Some of the techniques might look very unusual to someone without a proper context. You should always consider what’s going on and how you can stir the conversation so that you can begin to really utilize as many covert hypnosis techniques as possible. Sure, some techniques work wonderfully at any point of conversation and in almost any context, but before using a technique, you should always consider what’s going on at that specific moment.
3.) You need to establish rapport. While rapport isn’t absolutely necessary for persuasion or even to utilize some covert hypnosis, it’s essential for many if not most techniques and besides that, the more rapport (i.e. unconscious responsiveness) you have with a person, the better the techniques will work. Remember to work on your rapport skills and perfect them!
4.) You need to calibrate. You have to know what’s going on with your subject at all times. You have to constantly notice subtle cues (eye movement, skin color, voice tone, general body language…) to know if your subject is in “trance”, if she’s really captivated, if she’s paying attention and most importantly if she’s really responding to your suggestions.
5.) You need to work on your inner game and develop social skills. While covert hypnosis is a social skill itself, you need to also develop some other social skills like knowing when it’s appropriate to say and do something (calibrating and testing), when it’s best to and how to approach people (or how to intentionally create situations to approach) and so on. You also need to work on your attitude toward covert hypnosis and integrate it in your personality (this comes with time and practice).
6.) You need a proper sequence of events. One of the models that works very well is:
Attention –> Rapport –> Captivation (trance induction) –> Suggestions <–> Calibration
Now, this isn’t to say that you can’t use suggestions in the attention phase. You can and also should. What I mean by suggestions here is something you couldn’t get away with without rapport. The good stuff. This is something good social skills and calibration will help you with a lot.
The thing to remember here is that in written form this all looks like something that takes a lot of time. It’s not! It can take from “attention” phase to “suggestion” phase less than a minute! Less than 30 seconds! It all depends on your skill level and the context.
Many students I know and that I trained had trouble with the sequence. What would usually happen was they would start with “suggestion phase” and be surprised when techniques didn’t work. Fortunately they had someone to set them straight and they didn’t quit.
OK, hope you enjoyed this post. Next time I’ll give some examples of how it should and shouldn’t be done, so come back often.